Monday, July 29, 2013

Testimonial #8

Testimonial #8

Two years after we adopted our eldest son, we decided it was time to re-start the adoption process again in order to complete our family. We signed back up with our previous facilitator and for 2 years we had NO results other than a very costly failed adoption. Broken hearts and absolutely no empathy or emotional support from that particular facilitator. We quickly learned that when things go wrong, many facilitators often only advocate and empathize with the birthmothers, leaving us vulnerable adoptive parents completely on our own to deal with all the stress and potential disappointments.

We then learned about Irene Riley at A Rainbow’s End Adoption and were thrilled to see for ourselves that she not only gave 110% of herself to the birthmothers but that she also gave 110% to us adoptive parents. She gave her emotional support and her empathy to us as an adoptive couple. As an adoptive mom herself, she knew first-hand how vulnerable, how scary and how difficult the process is and can be for us. She matched us with our birth mom very quickly and she was very attentive, very involved and very On-the-Ball throughout the whole process. She even drove our birthmother to the hospital and stayed with us much of the time during the hospital stay to ensure a smooth transition. Irene is a wonderful being, we couldn’t be happier with our 2 beautiful and absolutely adorable little boys. Our family is now complete.

Thank you Irene Riley

Testimonial #7

Testimonial #7

A Rainbows End Adoptions made our dreams come true!!

When my husband and I found that pregnancy was NOT an option for us we began to research adoption options. Eventually, we were referred to A Rainbows End Adoption Services and to Irene Riley. We chose A Rainbows End Adoption because we felt we were being lost in the 100 or so perspective adoptive families at another company. Also, my husband is physically disabled. A Rainbows End Adoption and Irene treated us as any other adoptive family and not as an adoptive family with a disabled parent. A Rainbows End Adoptions only worked with 10 perspective adoptive families at the time so our profile got a more personalized showing. We met our daughter’s birthparents after only 1 month and a day. Irene supported us through the happiness and difficulties and was always there for us. It was a long and sometimes difficult 4 months until our daughter was born. We still have contact with our daughter’s birthparents. They are both always in our prayers. After all, our daughter’s birthparents blessed our lives with our beautiful little girl. Adoption is a long and difficult sometimes journey, but you will find exactly what you need in A Rainbows End Adoption. They truly made our dreams come TRUE!!

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

7 adult truths that kids never believe..

There are certain adult truths that kids never believe, no matter how much adults assure them they're telling the truth. I remember all the things my parents and teachers tried to tell me about growing up and I never believed them. To me, there was nothing more awesome than being an adult, and no one would ever convince me otherwise. They were just trying to hoard all the adult fun times for themselves. Now that I'm an adult, well … I wish I'd put more stock into all of those adult truths.

1. Time Flies as You Get Older

One of the most fundamental adult truths that children never believe is the way time flies. When you're a kid, a week is like a year; a month becomes a decade; and a year is just interminable. Those 9 months you're in school stretch on forever, and while summer always flies by too fast, it still seems like an entire age of freedom. Once you graduate high school, however, time starts to speed up a little. When you're in your twenties, you start to realize that the weeks are flying by like minutes. I shudder to think what's going to happen to time by the time I'm 40 or 50, but I know I wish I'd listened to my parents and savored time when it moved like molasses.

2. Adulthood Does Not Start at 18

I have no idea why, but I remember being a “precocious” (read: bratty and smug) 12 year old, swearing to my mom I was moving out the very day I turned 18 so I could be free to do whatever I wanted. I completely ditched that way of thinking long before the age of 18, of course, but many kids don't. They're convinced that 18 is a magic number, that you get a membership card into the wonderful world of adulthood on your birthday. Not so much, kiddos. In fact, I know a couple of 30 year olds who are less mature than most teens.

3. Naps Really Are Awesome

Kids will never believe this. Never. They fight against naps because they think they're missing something, and there's nothing adults can say to convince them that they'll one day be willing to trade their firstborn child for thirty minutes of rest.

4. You'll Want It Less When You Pay for It

My mom's favorite story involves a 7 year old Lyndsie begging for a pair of Nike Air Jordans with the pump, being told that $100 was too expensive for a pair of shoes I'd outgrow in two months, and then very audaciously informing her that she could use a credit card because that's what it was for. This is why it's so important to teach your kids the value of a dollar; otherwise they'll never believe they won't want that $500 phone if they have to pay for it themselves.

5. Eating in Front of The TV Is Bad

More and more today, we hear how unhealthy it is to eat in front of the television set. Parents have been telling their kids that for years, but they just think you're trying to ruin all their fun. They won't believe this particular truth until they're old enough to read health reports.

6. It Will Get Better

When children get bullied by their peers because their clothes aren't designer, they're too fat or too tall or too thin, their hair's different, they have a different religion, or they like a different gender than they're “supposed to,” they don't believe it will get better. They can't; all they know is the pain of the moment, the pain of being different and of being teased and tormented because they somehow aren't what their peers think they should be. But it will get better, and this is one adult truth you have to impart to children over and over and over again. You have to make them believe this.

7. You Won't Want to Do Adult Things When You Can

This is geared more toward teens, but it's still true. Kids may think that smoking and drinking are cool, grown up activities, to the point that they're tempted to toy with the forbidden and sneak around to get booze and cigarettes. They don't believe that once they're 18 and 21, respectively, and legally allowed to smoke and drink, they won't be even half as interested in doing so.

The grass is always greener, right? Some days I'd give anything to go back to being a kid; at the very least, I'd love to have that carefree attitude again. No responsibilities, no real concept of time, no idea about things like student debt or the exorbitant cost of dairy products (mom and dad, I am heartily sorry for all the cheese I wasted on my Barbie dolls; stalkers, don't ask). Is there any adult wisdom you wish you'd paid attention to as a kid?

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Justices rule for adoptive couple in Native-American custody dispute

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  • Justices rule for adoptive couple in Native-American custody dispute

    By Bill Mears, CNN Supreme Court Producer
    updated 9:46 AM EDT, Wed June 26, 2013

    Veronica's adoptive parents eager for reunion

    • Sharply divided Supreme Court says adoption by white couple of Native American girl was legal
    • Justices say the father, a member of the Cherokee Nation, cannot rely on federal law for relief
    • Case goes back to South Carolina courts; Girl being raised in Oklahoma by father
    • Adoptive family, birth mother express satisfaction with ruling
    Washington (CNN) -- The Supreme Court sided on Tuesday with adoptive parents in a divisive custody fight over a Native American child after the biological father asserted his parental rights.
    The justices, by a 5-4 margin, said the adoption by a white couple was proper and did not intrude on the federal rights of the father, a registered member of the Cherokee tribe, over where his daughter, Veronica, 3, would live.
    The court said the father could not rely on the Indian Child Welfare Act for relief because he never had legal or physical custody at the time of adoption proceedings, which were initiated by the birth mother without his knowledge.
    Justice Samuel Alito said when "the adoption of an Indian child is voluntarily and lawfully initiated by a non-Indian parent with sole custodial rights, the (law's) primary goal of preventing unwarranted removal of Indian children and the dissolution of Indian families is not implicated."
    Adoptive couple: It was huge for us
    The justices of the U.S. Supreme Court sit for their official photograph on October 8, 2010, at the Supreme Court. Front row, from left: Clarence Thomas, Antonin Scalia, Chief Justice John G. Roberts, Anthony M. Kennedy and Ruth Bader Ginsburg. Back row, from left: Sonia Sotomayor, Stephen Breyer, Samuel Alito Jr. and Elena Kagan.The justices of the U.S. Supreme Court sit for their official photograph on October 8, 2010, at the Supreme Court. Front row, from left: Clarence Thomas, Antonin Scalia, Chief Justice John G. Roberts, Anthony M. Kennedy and Ruth Bader Ginsburg. Back row, from left: Sonia Sotomayor, Stephen Breyer, Samuel Alito Jr. and Elena Kagan.
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    The appeal was filed by Matt and Melanie Capobianco, who legally adopted Veronica in 2009 shortly after the birth mother agreed to give up the child.
    She is known in court papers as "Baby Girl."
    The South Carolina Supreme Court ruled last year for the biological father, Dusten Brown, who had sought custody after Veronica's birth. He is a registered member of the Cherokee Nation and is raising the child in Oklahoma.
    The ICWA remains in effect, but the high court majority concluded the biological father could not apply it to his circumstances.
    The Supreme Court ruling throws the issue back to the state courts, but it was not clear whether and when Brown would have to turn the girl over to the Capobiancos.
    The Charleston, South Carolina, couple said they hope the ruling will prevent disruptions of other adoptions.
    "We are very happy with the ruling today. The Supreme Court gave us everything that we asked for," Melanie Capobianco told CNN affiliate WCSC. "They made it very clear that Veronica would have never been taken from her home and from her family and that the adoption would have been approved."
    She and Matt Capobianco said separation from Veronica has been difficult.
    "We are looking forward to seeing her again soon when we have the opportunity to do so, because we miss her so very much," said Melanie Capobianco.
    Christinna Maldanado, Veronica's birth mother, also expressed satisfaction.
    "Matt and Melanie are part of my family, and they have treated me like part of theirs. I'm hopeful that we will all be reunited with Veronica very soon," the statement said.
    There was no immediate reaction from Brown, or the tribe. But Native American groups remained hopeful he would still keep custody.
    "While we are pleased the court has upheld ICWA, we're very disappointed for Dusten, Veronica, and the Brown family that the court has ruled to send the case back to the South Carolina courts on a technicality," said Jefferson Keel, president of the National Congress of American Indians.
    "However, the courts in South Carolina have previously affirmed that Dusten Brown is Veronica's father and that he is a fit parent. We are confident that his parental rights will be upheld and that Veronica will stay with her family," Keel said.
    The case is Adoptive Couple v. Baby Girl, a Minor Child Under the Age of Fourteen Years (12-399)

    Monday, July 8, 2013

    A letter from a birthmother…

    A letter from a birthmother…

    When I found out I was pregnant, I was so angry! I was mad at my boyfriend and myself. We already had one child and there was no way we could afford another. He wanted me to have an abortion and I said “that was not a possibility”. I was the one that would have to go through it, not him. I was so mad that he would even suggest it. When I told him I wasn’t going to have... an abortion, he left me.
    I had a lot of questions going through my head. How was I going to support the three of us? How could I give this baby all it needed when I could barely support the child I already had and myself?
    Every time I asked my boyfriend for help, we would just fight. I knew I had to make a decision and fast. I started looking in the phone book for abortions when I saw an ad for abortion alternatives. I called the adoption place and started to talk to a counselor who spent an hour talking to me on the phone. The next day she came to my hotel to talk to me some more.
    By then, I knew the adoption decision was the right choice for me and the baby. I had so many questions for my counselor and she answered all them patiently. She never once got annoyed with my questions. She told me “it was the love for my baby that would help me get through this. Women don’t place their babies up for adoption because they don’t love them but because they do love them”.
    I was able to pick and meet the adoptive parents I wanted for my child. We went to dinner and they were so wonderful with my daughter (that I currently parented). We ate dinner and talked and talked and talked. I asked them if they would be with me when I had the baby and they got so excited.
    The day I had to say good-bye to my son was not as hard as I thought it would be. I knew that he was going to be loved and cared for and all his needs were going to meet. I do love him so much.
    It has been 2 years and I still get pictures and updates for my son. I never question my decision. I still know that in my heart and soul it was the best decision I have ever made.

    Testimonial #6

    Testimonial #6
    Dear Irene,
    We just wanted to write you a note to say "Thank you". Although those words do not express our gratitude for the little miracle you have blessed us with. Our daughter is now 3 months old and we are so in love with her, it is truly unbelievable. You worked so hard for us and you were there for us every step of the way, especially when it was needed. We are a family of 5 n...ow and feel so complete. You, made that all possible for us. We have recommended A Rainbows End Adoption to several of our friends and know that you have already matched one them. How wonderful. Your work, your staff and your dedication to families, birthmothers and your business is truly remarkable. You are making dreams come true. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
    All our love.